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STANDARD
STANDARD
Your Standard is your personal coat of arms — the heraldic symbol that carries your name and your formation words. Every man in Contact Right has one. Build yours here.
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Create
Step 1 — Choose Your Standard
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Military Badge
Earned embroidery. Special forces identity.
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Ancient Coat of Arms
Heraldic arms. Fixed to stone.
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Tattoo Design
Skin-deep commitment. Bold linework.
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Dog Tags
Stamped steel. Worn close, carried always.
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Example images show the surname Morgan — yours will be built with your own.
Step 2 — Name Your Arms
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Step 3 — Choose Your Size
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Mobile Screensaver
Portrait format — designed for your phone lock screen or home screen.
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Desktop Screensaver
Landscape format — designed for your desktop or laptop screen.
Step 4 — Generate in ChatGPT
Build your prompt above — your ChatGPT prompt will appear here.
Step 5 — Generate in ChatGPT
Open ChatGPT
Paste your prompt — then select Create an image
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Switch to ChatGPT and paste your prompt. Select Create an image to generate.
iPhone: the ChatGPT app won't save the image directly, so route it through your browser:
1. Tap the Share button under the image.
2. Choose Open in Brave (or Chrome, or whichever browser you have).
3. In the browser, tap the image and choose Download / Save to Files.
4. Come back here, tap Upload, choose Files in the picker, and open the Recents tab — your image will be at the top. (Brave saves to Downloads; Chrome saves to its own folder — Recents finds it either way.)
Android: tap and hold the image → Save image (saves to your gallery). Come back here, tap Upload, and select it from your gallery.
Your Standard
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AI-generated images aren't always perfect. If the text isn't right, hit Regenerate — or go back and choose a different format.
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DELETE YOUR
STANDARD?
STANDARD?
This will remove your Coat of Arms from the app. You can upload a new one at any time.
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TIME TO SET
YOUR STANDARD.
YOUR STANDARD.
Every man in Contact Right has a Coat of Arms — his name, his era, his five words. It's yours to build and yours to carry.
Create it once. It greets you every time you log in.
Create it once. It greets you every time you log in.
Solo Mode
HOW THIS WORKS
Life is hard. Choose your hard.
No performance required. No fixing. Just honesty, courage, and showing up for yourself.
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Read the Word
Read the word and its definition slowly — twice. Make sure you understand what it means before moving on.
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Let the First Question Land
Read it. Let it sit. Don't rush the answer. Collect your thoughts before you write anything down.
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Let the Second Question Land
Read it. Let it land. Sit with the discomfort if it's there.
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Your Next Move
What are you going to do differently? Write the one action you're committing to. Be specific.
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Done. Send It.
Hit the button. Your responses are emailed to you as a record of where you stood and what you chose.
One on One
RULES OF ENGAGEMENT
Life is hard. Choose your hard.
Read these rules aloud together before you begin. Both men are bound by them.
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Speak Truth — No Masks
In this space, we say what is real — not what sounds right. This is a place for honesty, not image.
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What Is Said Here Stays Here
What we share in this room stays in this room. Confidentiality is non-negotiable. This space only works if it is safe.
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Listen to Understand
When a man is speaking, we do not interrupt, we do not fix, we do not one-up. We honour him by fully hearing him.
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No Advice Without Permission
We speak only from our own experience. "When I faced this..." — never "You should..."
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Lean Into Discomfort
If it feels hard, we're probably in the right place. We lean in — we don't retreat.
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Take Action
This session ends with one clear step forward. Insight without action is useless.
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Commit to the Process
Transformation doesn't happen in one conversation. We show up consistently — that's what changes a man.
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When the Floor Opens — Two Responses Only
After a man shares, the floor opens. There are two permitted responses:
Share from experience. Something from your own story that this word surfaced — not a response to what he said. Either man can do this.
A call-up. Strength spoken directly into him — what you see in him, what you know of him. A call-up can only come from someone who actually knows him. If you don't know the man, you stay quiet.
Share from experience. Something from your own story that this word surfaced — not a response to what he said. Either man can do this.
A call-up. Strength spoken directly into him — what you see in him, what you know of him. A call-up can only come from someone who actually knows him. If you don't know the man, you stay quiet.
Suggested Run Sheet
20'
Warm Up — Choose One
Loosen the room before you go deep. Pick the option that fits the group.
Option A — Card Games
A few rounds of general card games to warm up. Browse the games list →
Option B — Stoke the Fire
Each man draws a warm-up card from the app. One question, light touch — gets the room talking before the main session.
5'
Sign In & Rules
Both men scan the QR code, sign in, and read through the rules of engagement.
60'
Contact Right — Card Session
Draw a card each or share one card. Reflect, respond, share from experience, and commit to your next move.
85'
Total Session
A full evening that stays purposeful from start to finish.
Squad Member
RULES OF ENGAGEMENT
Life is hard. Choose your hard.
Your Squad Leader will read these rules aloud. Follow along and hold every man in the room to them — including yourself.
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Speak Truth — No Masks
In this room, we say what is real — not what sounds right. This is a place for honesty, not image.
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What Is Said Here Stays Here
What is shared in this room stays in this room. Confidentiality is non-negotiable. This space only works if every man keeps it safe.
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Listen to Understand
When a man is speaking, we do not interrupt, we do not fix, we do not one-up. We honour him by fully hearing him.
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No Advice Without Permission
We speak only from our own experience. "When I faced this..." — never "You should..."
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Lean Into Discomfort
If it feels hard, we're in the right place. We lean in — we don't retreat.
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Take Action
This session ends with one clear step forward from every man. Insight without action is useless.
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Commit to the Process
Transformation doesn't happen in one conversation. We show up consistently — that's what changes a man.
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When the Floor Opens — Two Responses Only
After a man shares, I'll open the floor. There are two permitted responses:
Share from experience. Something from your own story that this word surfaced — not a response to what he said. Any man in the room can do this.
A call-up. Strength spoken directly into him — what you see in him, what you know of him. A call-up can only come from someone who actually knows him personally. If you don't know the man, you stay quiet and let those who do speak.
Share from experience. Something from your own story that this word surfaced — not a response to what he said. Any man in the room can do this.
A call-up. Strength spoken directly into him — what you see in him, what you know of him. A call-up can only come from someone who actually knows him personally. If you don't know the man, you stay quiet and let those who do speak.
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Leadership
TRAINING KIT
Study before you lead
Run Tonight
Field Kit
This is your quick reference for running a session. The full Squad Leader Training and certification — nine modules and the assessment — lives online.
Before your first session — three things
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Do the full training first. Don't skim it — every section exists because something went wrong without it. This kit is your in-session reference once you have.
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Prepare what you'll share first. You take the first share, so find the card that has real weight for you this week and know your honest answer before the men arrive — the room rises to the depth you set (see You Set the Depth below). The full how-to lives in the online training.
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Set the session timer before anyone arrives. You lead — you don't scramble. Have everything ready before the first man walks in.
Squad Scan-In
GET THE MEN IN
Hold this up when the session starts. Every man scans to open the app directly — no typing, no searching.
Contents
Managing Group Dynamics
Your job is to protect the space — for the quiet man as much as the loud one.
The Dominant Man
He fills silence and redirects to himself. Don't confront publicly. Thank and redirect: "Good. Let's hear from the others before we come back to you." The structure is your authority, not your personality.
The Man Who Rambles
Interrupt with respect: "I want to stop you there — can you land it in one sentence for the group?" Make the time limit the reason, not a judgment on him.
The Disengaged Man
Call him in, not out: "[Name], this word — does anything come up for you?" If he's not ready: "No pressure. You can pass and come back." Never leave him invisible.
The Advice-Giver
Redirect consistently: "Speak from your own story, brother. What did this look like for you personally?" He'll adjust if you hold the line without making him wrong.
Emotional Intensity
Slow everything down: "Take your time. We're not in a rush." Don't fix it. Let it be present. Check in with him privately after.
Leadership Ground Rules
You are a facilitator, not a teacher. Your role is to hold the space, not fill it.
Phone Protocol
Phone Protocol
The phone is a tool, not a presence. Men are here to connect — not to sit behind screens. Your job as leader is to enforce this clearly and consistently.
Phones Up
To draw or select the card. To read the word and definition. To write thoughts during silent reflection. To complete and send at the end.
Phones Down
For everything else — sharing, listening, the group opening, calling him up, the man closing. Any time a man is speaking or being heard, phones are on the table face down.
Say it at the start: "Phones are a tool tonight, not a companion. I'll tell you when to pick them up. When I don't, they're down."
The most important rule
YOU SET THE DEPTH
You set the depth by going first. In the early sessions you take the first share of the round — and you take it to Level 3. When you answer one real question with genuine weight, every man in the room knows what honest sharing sounds like. The session rises to meet the standard you set.
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If the first man shares shallow, the room stays shallow. Every man after him will match that depth.
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If you go deep and honest first, you give every man in the room permission to do the same. The session rises or falls on this moment.
Don't wait to see what the room does. The room is waiting to see what you do.
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Protect the silence
Don't fill every pause. Silence is doing work. Let it breathe at least 10 seconds before moving on.
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Hold the time
Every man gets equal time. Use a visible timer if needed — it removes the awkwardness of cutting someone off.
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Name what you see
If the room goes flat: "We've gone a bit heady — let's bring it back to what's real for each of you."
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End with action
Never close without each man stating one specific action. Vague commitments don't change men.
Suggested Run Sheet
A standard session runs 90 minutes. Use this as your template.
Suggested Run Sheet
20'
Warm Up — Choose One
Men arrive and loosen up before the session begins. Pick the option that fits the group.
Option A — Card Games
A few rounds of general card games to warm up the room. Browse the games list →
Option B — Stoke the Fire
Each man draws a warm-up card from the app. One question, light touch — gets the room talking before the main session. Works especially well if the group doesn't know each other well.
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Scan In, Sign Up & Rules
Members scan the QR code and sign in as Squad Member. You read the rules aloud. Everyone ticks their agreement.
60'
Contact Right — Card Session
Follow the 9-step session structure above. Phones up only to draw the card, write thoughts, and send. Phones down for all sharing and listening.
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Optional — Second Card
If time and energy allow, invite another man to draw and repeat from step 5 of the session structure.
90'
Total Session
One card minimum. Two cards if the room has the energy. Always end with each man stating one action aloud.
How to Run a Session
A standard session runs 60–90 minutes. Work through these phases in order.
Choosing who goes first
In the early sessions, you take the first share — the demonstration card (see the section above). Once the squad is ready to carry it themselves, you need a way to choose which man goes first that puts no one on the spot and stops the same one or two men always volunteering. Don't use a fixed roster — men either dread their week or pre-load a performance for it. Pick at random, on the night:
The Spin
Lay a pen flat in the centre of the table and spin it. Whoever it points to goes first. Fast, physical, genuinely random — everyone leans in.
Number Call
Hold a number between 1 and 50 in your head; each man calls one out. Closest goes first. Nothing needed but the men in the room.
Keep it to thirty seconds, then go. It stays your call — any week the room needs a reset, or a man is plainly carrying something, you can still take the first share yourself.
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Scan In & Sign Up 5 min
Invite members to scan the QR code, select Squad Member, and sign in. You sign in as Squad Leader separately.
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Read the Rules Aloud 3 min
Read each rule aloud. Members follow on their screens and tick their agreement. Then announce the deck: "We are running with the Forge deck today."
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Draw the Card 2 min
Invite one man to draw a card in the app. He reads the word and definition aloud — slowly, twice. Phones down after the card is read. Every man has heard the word. Now put the device away and be present.
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Silent Reflection 10 min
You read the two questions aloud. Every man sits with them in silence — no phones, no writing yet. Just thinking. After a full minute of quiet, invite them to pick up their phones and write their thoughts in the app. Phones down again once they've written.
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The Man Who Drew Shares 5–8 min
He shares what came up for him and the next move he is committing to. The group listens without interruption. No responses yet — just witness him.
If you drew the card
As leader, if you drew the card — you share first and you share deep. The room will follow your lead. Don't hold back. This is the moment that sets the depth of the entire session.
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Open the Floor 5–10 min
Open it up: "Anyone got something to say — a shared experience, or a word for the man who just shared?" Some men will have something; some won't. Don't go around the circle. Let it come naturally.
Shared experience comes from a man's own story — not a response to the man who shared. The Call-Up speaks one value directly into him — but only from someone who actually knows him; from a stranger it lands hollow. If you don't know the man, stay quiet and let those who do speak. (See The Call-Up section in the training for how to run it.)
Shared experience comes from a man's own story — not a response to the man who shared. The Call-Up speaks one value directly into him — but only from someone who actually knows him; from a stranger it lands hollow. If you don't know the man, stay quiet and let those who do speak. (See The Call-Up section in the training for how to run it.)
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The Man Closes 2–3 min
He gives his closing thought. He may revise his next move based on what was shared and the encouragement received. His words, his choice. The group receives it without comment.
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Complete & Send 5 min
Phones up. Every man opens the app, finalises his thoughts, next move, and self-rating, then hits Done. Send It. Give them the time — don't rush this. Phones down once sent.
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Draw Another or End Leader's call
You call it. If time and energy allow, invite another man to draw and repeat from step 5. Otherwise close the session — each man states one action aloud before you end.
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Minimum
90'
Recommended
10'
Silent reflection
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Complete & send
Safeguarding & Crisis
Most nights the format holds and the men do honest work. But you must know what to do the night a man discloses something serious. Decide this before you need it — not in the moment.
Know before session 1
— Your mandatory reporting obligations in your state or territory.
— Who to contact within your church or organisation if a man discloses crisis.
— The escalation path for a mental-health emergency.
The line that overrides everything
If a man discloses harm to himself or others, duty of care overrides confidentiality. This is not a grey area. Know your obligations before you need them.
If a man discloses immediate risk
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Stop the session format entirely
"I hear you. I'm not moving on from this." When a man is in crisis, the session is over.
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Don't handle it alone
Know who to call: pastor, counsellor, emergency services. You are not the last line — you are the man who gets him to the right help.
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Don't leave him alone
If the risk is immediate, stay with him. Do not send him off on his own.
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Follow up within 24 hours
Without fail. The session ending is not the end of your responsibility to him.
When a man is in crisis and the session stops, that is not a failure. That's the format doing its job — creating a space where real things finally surface.
Conflict between two men
Two men in active conflict will poison the group if it's not addressed. Your job is not to adjudicate — it's to contain. Return to the rules in the room; don't air the conflict publicly. Speak with each man separately and privately, listening to both without taking sides. If it's unresolvable between the three of you, bring it to your pastor or church leadership.
Stoke the Fire
A warm-up tool for session openers, icebreakers, and podcasts. Not part of the main deck rotation.
A standalone warm-up deck of 52 questions. Use it when the group is new, energy is low, or you want to ease in before the main session. One man draws a card, reads it aloud, every man answers in turn. Keep it moving — one question is enough. Draw from the button below and close it before the main session begins.
The Call-Up
The deck runs one way — a man names where he is weak. The Call-Up is the other way: after a man shares something real, another man speaks one value over him and calls him up into who he is becoming. Not advice. Not a fix. One word, spoken with weight. "Mate, I want to speak courage over you for this season."
This is the oldest tool men have for making men. Across cultures, manhood is never self-declared — it is spoken over a man by other men, and only then is it real. A true word lands as a stake in the ground he builds from. The same word said lightly is hollow, and a man feels it instantly. Carry this part with weight, or not at all.
It is a response, never a round
Never go around the circle handing every man a word — that is what makes it hollow, and it guarantees the worst outcome: the one man who gets nothing leaves heavier than all the others put together. The Call-Up only ever follows a real share, and only when someone is genuinely moved. No man is owed a word. Silence is not failure — a forced word is. Tell the squad this plainly: a word comes when it is true, not on a schedule.
How to Run It
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You speak first — and for a long time
In a young squad you are the only man with the standing to do this. Like the demonstration card, you model it: after a man shares, you speak one value over him, plainly, and let the room see what it looks and sounds like.
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Open it to the room only once it's earned
Stage 3 onward — six to eight sessions in, when the men know each other deeply enough to mean it. Until then you carry it. A call-up from someone who doesn't really know the man lands hollow.
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One value, named, facing forward
Not a paragraph, not a pep talk. One value, spoken to the man, pointed at who he is becoming — not praise for what he's already done. "I want to speak steadiness over you for what's ahead." Then stop.
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Let him receive it
He does not deflect, explain, or bat it away. He sits with the word spoken over him. Allow the silence after.
The full how-to, the three failure modes, and the why behind it are in the Squad Leader Training (Module 07).
Lead Your Squad
You've done the work. Now go lead.
The men in your squad don't need a perfect leader. They need a present one — someone who shows up, holds the space, and goes first. You set the depth by taking the first share and going deep. You protect the room by enforcing the rules. You give every man permission to be honest by being honest yourself.
That's the job. It's not complicated. It just takes courage.
That's the job. It's not complicated. It just takes courage.